Two weeks ago, I was checking my email when suddenly there was a flood of messages from Second Life coming in:
Your object “……’ has been returned to your inventory lost and found folder by Kip Yellowjacket …
Normally, I would have been alarmed and thought something must have happened but I only felt a strange kind of sadness because I knew what was happening. I was surprised by this feeling…
Like many other teachers, I was lucky to have met Kip Yellowjacket, the owner of Virtlantis, early in my Second Life. He not only gave me my first Linden dollars but also a place I could call home. Well, he called these plots “launchrooms”, which teachers could use as a meeting point with their students and “launch” from their to other destinations in SL.
I was so happy to have a place that I could decorate like I wanted and invite friends, colleagues and students to, that I spent long hours to make it look nice. At that time, I didn’t know about prims and that there is a limit of how many one could use on an island … 🙂
But that was not the end of Kip’s generosity. Some time later, he started building houses on Virtlantis and he gave these away for free, too. I was lucky enough to get one. It was called Casablanca and I loved it from the first moment. It was huge, had two large rooms and in the middle a garden. It also had two porches. Once again, I started decorating and Kip helped me with positioning the furniture.
One day, I was preparing for a lesson which would partly take place in my home. When I logged in half an hour before the lesson, I was in for a shock. My house had been vandalized!
It was the first time that I had experienced something negative in Second Life and strangely enough it felt real to some degree. Unfortunately, it happened two more times and I decided to move to another house on Virtlantis.
This one was smaller but cozy and to make up for all the annoyance I had a sea view now 🙂
This time, I hung up some pictures from my real life home, which I uploaded and even had a copy of my real life praying rug. In the front garden, I had planted daffodils, which Dennis, a dear friend, had given me as a gift.
I’m really sorry now that I didn’t take more pictures of it but I had been very busy. So much so, that I even didn’t log into SL for days and if I did I mostly teleported to some other place for a lesson or meeting.
At the end of last year, I rented a plot on EduNation for a teacher training course I would be giving. So, this became my temporary second home for some weeks.
Then, I had to make a decision. I was busy with my Master’s, which I had recently started. Then, several SL projects were coming up, which would all take place in different locations. I knew I wouldn’t have time to be in my home … Funny enough, this wasn’t an easy decision but I made up my mind and wrote to Kip telling him I would give up my home. I took my personal belongings back into my inventory, had a last look and teleported away. I also gave up my home on EduNation.
Sometime later, these messages started coming in…
Your object “……’ has been returned to your inventory lost and found folder by Kip Yellowjacket …
Your object “……’ has been returned to your inventory lost and found folder by Kip Yellowjacket …
…
Kip was sending me the furniture (one more act of generosity) … he was finally taking apart my home… I was staring at my computer screen and thinking:
“You are homeless in SL now.”
I didn’t think it would make me feel sad. It’s just a computer server somewhere and some pixels, right? Well, obviously it wasn’t. Second Life is a place. It’s a place where I work, meet friends and go to places. So, having a home is an important part of (second) life.
Many thanks to Pamela Arraras, whose blog post about “The importance of having a home” inspired me to finish mine.
This touched my heart. I had a home in Second Life I gave up. It was a decision based on deciding to live with my friend or keep my home. Like you I was always away. I put so much care and work into it. I never took pictures which I regret.
It’s really interesting how one gets attached to things. Probably also because you put so much work into it.
I think I will start taking more pictures in SL again…
I know exactly how you feel. I’ve felt the same in other games (MMOs) both with the house itself and my avatars when I quit.
Hi Stephanie,
Oh, giving up my avatar or having to completely change would be “traumatic” I guess…
I’ve written about my avatar here:
http://3.ly/4IPe (First steps in SL)
http://3.ly/ao3 (All about my avatar)
http://3.ly/5sPj (Can dragons be professionals)
Hi Nergiz,
Thanks for posting this; I am quite new to SL, and it really surprised me to find that I am getting attached to my home in SL…there’s so much to learn! I love your blog, it’s SO useful!!!
Pam
Thanks, Pam!
Yes, it is weird. People seem to be able to attach to “virtual” things just as much as to things in our physical world. I think it really is the work you put in and the memories you have of that place.
Waiting for your next blog post 🙂
I had similar feelings when Boracay went after having it for 18 months.
Nick, that must have been much worse — complete island which you had designed and worked hard on. It was beautiful. I’m glad we have a video of it:
https://slexperiments.nergizkern.com/2008/11/08/teachers-on-a-field-trip-in-second-life/
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